In part one- we investigated the ambiguous phrase, "The marriage bed is undefiled," and initiated a personal journey to understand the significance of untarnished marital intimacy. We explored the conflicts, challenges, and transformations experienced in the pursuit of a fulfilling Christian marriage such as:
- Societal taboos
- Lack of education
- Cultural expectations
- Internalized lies.
But what was next to come in my journey towards embracing an undefiled marriage bed?
Do you know what happened when I went for it with my husband?!
It was a beautiful, holy, intimate, experience for both of us. The next day he replied with, “You gave me some hope!” His response was a divine confirmation from God that it is ok to be uninhibited with my husband while keeping our bed undefiled.
Challenge and Dismiss Untrue Stories
It is crucial to challenge and dismiss the untrue narratives that have held many Christian women captive in a cycle of sexual repression. Additionally, societal pressure and judgment within the church often contribute to the suppression of healthy sexual expression. Dispel those narratives and stop suffering! How? Call them out as the lies that they are! Acknowledge God's Word as truth!
God’s Instructions Are Clear
Honor the sanctity of marriage and keep your vows of purity to one another, for God will judge sexual immorality in any form, whether single or married. -Hebrews 13:4 (TPT)
The foundation for understanding marital intimacy lies in God's clear instructions. According to His Word, sexual intimacy and intercourse should be between husband and wife only. Nowhere in this verse do we see stipulations on being freaky with your spouse inside of your Christian marriage. It highlights the divine blessing of marital sex as a gift from God. Marital sex is a gift from God. He designed our bodies to connect with each other in this special romantic way. It’s ok!
Unleash Your Inner Freak, Exploring Marital Intimacy
Prayerfully, my story serves as an inspiring example of how breaking free from societal and personal constraints can lead to a more fulfilling and passionate marriage. It challenges us to ask critical questions about the true meaning of intimacy within the boundaries of Christian marriage.
Oh, what a treasure it is to embrace your freak in the sheets side with the partner God gave to you for that purpose! You get to choose what that invisible “line” is for your marriage together.
In your marital bliss- agree upon boundaries such as how you'll address enhancements to your sex life such as:
Using them does not make the husband less of a man or lover. They add to your pleasure. And, your marriage bed (or anywhere else you explore) is still undefiled. Find what works for both of you.
- Provides personalized recommendations from our range of intimacy solutions
- Creates a unique and empowering experience for each participant.
- Ensures she receives gifts she actually desires, and would touch her on a deeper level.
Tailored to your unique intimacy needs and desires, The King and Queen Intimacy Experience™ by Soul Remodeling ensures every couple that commits to this journey experiences acceptance, pleasure, fulfillment, and freedom in the bedroom.
Benefits of The King and Queen Intimacy Experience™
For The Husband
He will gain understanding, hope, and options for intimacy with his wife; dispelling the beliefs that he:
-Is being punished for past sins
-Has to accept a sexless marriage
-Must find ways to remain faithful without fulfillment
For The Wife
She will reclaim and embrace her sensual and sexual power, conquering the complex prison that is limiting her from experiencing pleasure and desires after sexual assault or abuse.
I am Mrs. Monique Harris, trusted as a Certified Trauma (and survivor) Informed Care facilitator with a long track record of advocacy and activism for survivors of sexual assault and domestic violence over the last 11 years. Part of my service work is empowering survivors with Jesus so they can take back their power in healthy meaningful ways.
Go from rejected and disappointed, to accepted and pleased with The King and Queen Intimacy Experience™ by Soul Remodeling.